2022.01.19 23:36 missrittalove AITA for Ghosting my BestFriend of 17 years?
Obligatory apology for the formatting, on mobile and spelling mistakes. I'm drinking and a bit sad and want some insight on my situation.
So I (29 f) met my bff (30 f) when we were teenagers. We were both going through a lot in life at the time and kind of clung to eachother. She always had the tendency to be a huge bitch when she was stressed and I always overlooked it because she was always helping me out and i knew she had some mental issues. We were roommates when I got pregnant with my now (10 f) daughter she was really angry and didn't hide it at all so I ended up packing and moving to another city near my mom and sister. We eventually got back in contract rightr before I gave birth and swept whatever it was under the rug.
Fast forward to the present year, I've moved back to my hometown and we've fallen out about 4 or 5 times always with the subject being that she's a bitch and I'm always forgiving her (I literally can write a book on the relationship but I don't have enough room here). She's done some VERY messed up things to me that I've forgiven her for but I won't even get into it. Most of the time things like this would happen if I stood up for myself which I've always struggled with. Later we'd always get drunk and have heart to heart conversations and she'd admit small things like "I didn't want you to lose all of that weight because you change when people pay you attention." "People gravitate towards you and it made me jealous." "You're so much more social than I am and always make friends and I'm not saying I don't want to to make friends I just want to be more important in your life". I always just awkwardly smiled at these statements and reassured her things were always going to be okay because I understood that she had some mental health things going on and just wanted her to be okay.
She moved to a new state with her children about 6 months ago and has flown down here to visit me twice. Her last visit was a few days ago. I put in all of my vacation time at work and spent my first two days out of town with my girlfriend and drove to pick my best friend up from her family's house after I dropped off my girlfriend. Prior to her flying down she was talking about getting a rental and I told her not to worry because I had just gotten a new car and would drive her anywhere she wants to go and told her to stay at my house and not worry about getting a hotel room. That way she could save money.
The visit: When she first gets to my house she states that theres a guy she wants to see and they made plans in the next couple of days, he also invites me and she asks if i want to come along and I say "sure just let me know when" and thats the end of it. So we do a few activities and hang out, we have a nice time and about 2 days in we're in the car and she says "Hey, do you have any plans tonight?" To which I reply "Not really, what's up?" She says "I'm probably going to head out to so&so's house for a couple hours" and I'm like "Okay, well did you not want me to come anymore?" And she's like "Well we're going to have some private time actually." I'm like "okay well I'll just drop you off over there and go to gfs house and wait for you to call and pick you up." And she's like "Well can I just drop you off?" At this point I'm a bit confused because it feels like she doesn't want me to know where she's going. I say "I mean I'm just a little iffy about the insurance situation on my car." (I've had some bad luck letting people use my car in the past and have pretty much just learned from my mistakes) she says "oh...okay." THEN SHE GOES COMPLETELY SILENT FOR HOURS.
It's super awkward in the car, she's pretty much had her headphones in all day anyway and keeps them in. She doesn't speak to my daughter, or me and when we get back to my house she starts getting on the phone asking people to come and get her because she "doesn't have a ride". I heard that and just laughed and went to my gfs house that night. While I'm over there she posts "VERY ready to go back home." On Facebook. I hit the love reaction just so she knows I saw it.
The whole week she was sleeping in my room and when I get home from my gfs house she's in the living room sleeping on the couch.
The next morning she posts "Whats the move for the day before the smow storm hits?" And i read the comments and shes begging people to come pick her up and how shes ready to leave. Then sends me this SUPER long message about how she understands its my car and the issues I've had in the past but why wouldn't I tell her that she couldn't use my car before she came down so she could get a rental. She goes on to throw in my face how she's helped all of these people (including me) and everyone treats her like the welfare system and is hurt that she never gets the same in return. (Her actual words lol). That part really pissed me off considering the fact that through the years we have helped EACHOTHER. She's lived with me, I've lived with her. We've borrowed money from eachother. So that part of the message really fucked me up. She goes on to ask what's the difference between my gf using my car and her.
I responded with how the minute my gf got behind the wheel I put her on my insurance plan. And how we had discussed I would drive her wherever she needed to go at any time so I don't see the issue. She comes back with how shes insured to drive anyones car (which she didn't say before) and brings up a situation that happened 5 years ago when she let me use her car and I fell asleep before picking her up. And I assured her that the circumstances were very different and just pretty much wondered why she felt the need to be so cold and make subliminal posts while still visiting me at my house when I pretty much offered to be her personal chauffeur.
She doesn't even respond and gets in the shower. My daughter's father picks her up for the week and I pack up my dog and clothes and get ready to head to my gfs house to wait out the oncoming blizzard.
I spoke to my dad in between and he says she didn't speak to him either.
I'm at the point in my life where I'm going to be 30 this year and don't want her to keep making me feel like I'm the bad friend for protecting my feelings (or car for this matter). We aren't teenagers anymore. I do my best with her and always overlooked her fucked up attitude and things she's done to me. She had her brother come and pick her up and I let her know where the spare key to my house was and she just walked out of my house without even saying goodbye. I left to my gfs and blocked her on everything.
That night she called me twice and I texted her "what's up?" She responded "nothing, sorry to bother" I ignored it. When I woke up I had 2 missed calls from her and she texted asking where the key was but sent "nevermind" when she found it. I was under the impression she was leaving that night so I told her to leave the key with my dad. She sends another long message basically saying she wishes I'd get over it the way I do in my relationships when I'm treated poorly. I don't respond. Then she sends me a screenshot of my social media saying "no content available" (pretty much letting me know that she knows i blocked her) and says "I understand, I'll never contact you ever again" and I guess she left my house that day.
I'm not going to lie, this hurts because she was like a sister to me but she can be such a nasty person. I'm so tired of hurting and questioning myself and don't want to keep doing this with her.
Am I the Asshole for blocking her and ending this friendship?
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Here's the post I made on the Discord:
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Are you open to refurbs/used?
Yes, I suppose
How would you prioritize form factor, build quality, performance, and battery life?
LOW WATTAGE above all else, performance, build quality, battery life, form factor.
Do you have a preferred screen size? If indifferent, put N/A.
17" 1080p, for sure.
Are you doing any CAD/video editing/photo editing/gaming? List which programs/games you desire to run.
Visual Studio, Photoshop CS5, Fusion 360, FFMPEG, light games
If you're gaming, do you have certain games you want to play? At what settings and FPS do you want?
Emulators up to CEMU (WiiU), top-down shooters, rogue-likes, Bloodstained: Ritual of the Night, Enter the Gungeon, UnderMine.
Any specific requirements such as good keyboard, touch-screen, finger-print reader, optical drive or good input devices (keyboard/touchpad)?
2x SO-DIMM slots. HDMI out. Numeric keypad. 95%+ sRGB gamut. No touch screen, and a non-glossy monitor. IPS prefered. Additional 2.5" storage slot. I have some decent 2.5" drives I could reuse.
Leave any finishing thoughts here that you may feel are necessary and beneficial to the discussion
Will be running it off-grid with solar power, hence the low wattage being important.
I've been looking at laptops featuring the Ryzen 5 5500U APU. Excluding the monitor, a system using that chip will draw about 10W idle, 15W while watching a 4k video, and 45W when totally maxed out. Yet it's still 2-4x better than my 10 year old, $2000 gaming laptop that tops out at 150W.
I was looking at the ASUS VivoBook S712UA-DS54 until I just learned it only has a single(!) SO-DIMM slot and this chip really wants dual-channel since the iGPU uses shared memory. So I just added that to my requirements above.
The HP 17-cp0013dx is $200 cheaper, but doesn't even mention how many RAM slots it has on their official page. Nor does it mention storage slots. And notebookcheck.net doesn't list the model specifically. I have a bad feeling about it.
I'm kinda set on the Ryzen 5500U, or maybe the 5700U if it's a good value. I've been doing research and looking at power, CPU, and GPU benchmarks, and it seems to be good. I prefer AMD over Intel.
My current laptop weighs 15 pounds, and that's not an issue. I value expandability, ports, battery life, and easy serviceability over slimness.
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My hypothesis is that pausing the game during the time when the horse AI was deciding which way to turn at an almost exactly 90 degree corner, caused the AI to continue feeding instructions to the unresponsive horse, and that these instructions overflowed into a different section of memory, resulting in a game crash. If anyone can work this out, it's this community. Why did my vanilla game crash?
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